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Me time – the moment I can’t keep my eyes open but still scrolling down.

After a long day, shopping, cooking, feeding, changing, nursing or what not. My little girl gone to sleep. I can’t keep my eyes open and need to change to my pajamas, brush my teeth and drink some water.  But here I am, scrolling down my phone. Being nosy on instagram.

It’s been 10 months now. I have been doing this. Not same thing all the time but this me time is a very special time for my sanity. I don’t want to get up from bed and just want to sleep like the way I am. But what is this telling me to get up and wash my face and brush my teeth and change??

Sometime i think what a great life babies have. They fed, changed, sleep and entertained. When I put my daughter to sleep, she takes good 30 minutes to drift off. If I am offered by this opportunity I will grab it in a second.  Now, I just closed my eyes and went in my dream seeing the stupidest things one can imagine.  Time to get up…

If you are in the same boat tell me what do you do in your “me time”.

 

 

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What I learned being a first time mum

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  1. To be very alert in sleep.
  2. Putting my little girl first in everything.
  3. The value of routine in life.
  4. Making different types of baby food.
  5. No procrastination.
  6. Clean on the go.
  7. No late night gatherings
  8. Staying in a budget.
  9. Pinning every single blog post about parenting.
  10. 101 ways to entertain my daughter.
  11. Singing nursery rhymes.
  12. Home remedies to cure any illness.
  13. Controlling my anger.
  14. No matter how much I disagree with any other mother’s parenting, I just keep my mouth shut for her respect.
  15. Loving unconditionally.
  16. Understanding the fact that I’m not perfect.
  17. Learning  with every mistake.
  18. To know what my baby needs by her each cry.
  19. Praying for her before I pray for myself.
  20. Laughing and giggling with her even when I am sad.
  21. Getting happy to buy her clothes and shoes before I buy anything for myself.
  22. Learned the fact that Allah loves us more than 70 mothers. I know how much I love her. What would be the level of that love he has for us.
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Relationship goals after baby

Expectations

  1. Caring and helping husband who help changing nappies.
  2. Date night once a week.
  3. Sunday brunch in bed.
  4. Sensual massage.
  5. Babysit when you go out socialising.
  6. Keeping house clean and make less mess.
  7. Always be ready to listen.
  8. Eat together.
  9. Get up and put Z back to sleep when she wakes up at night.
  10. You look amazing sweetheart.

Reality

  1. Saying yuck! To see a dirty nappy and say oh! Throw this away … far away..
  2. Staying out once a week to get me time.
  3. Take Z downstairs please I need to sleep more . It’s Sunday . .
  4.  When was the last time you had shower ?
  5. Hello Z how are you ? I love you… go to your mama ! Come on man take her.
  6. Make sure to put trousers on the floor and leaving toilet dribbling after shower.
  7. What ? What did you say ? Do you really have to moan everytime ??
  8. What did you cook ? Vegetable curry ?!!!! I’m going to eat out today.
  9. I need to go work in the morning.  I’m going  to sleep in other room.
  10. You look amazing sweetheart ! 😆

I am still very happy with him. Just wish few things could change. What are your partners like? Share your thoughts.

 

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Growth spurt and sleep regression

 

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I am a first time mum of a baby girl, who’s 6 months. Those early days of newborn are gone and we started getting hang over everything. Things went so smooth that I decided to write a blog about my motherhood and my baby. My baby weaned well, have a routine of morning and daytime naps, sleeping 7 hours straight at night. Felt like I achieved what I wanted and going up one more level. And now boom.  Sudden change in sleep pattern and naps. Now I feel like a mombie.

When to expect growth spurt

Well motherhood is unpredictable and the joys of accomplishment didn’t last long. You must heard about ‘ growth spurt ‘. 6 weeks, 3 months, 6 months, 9 months and so on. I think she is having one.

All babies are different and their growth spurts are different as well. These are just estimate age where people observed their babies growing.  In fact, babies grow over night. Their growth spurt last for 3 days or a week.

She decided to teach me a lesson now. So on this stage this madam doesn’t like to sleep during day at all. Before I was just put her and she usually sleep for an hour two times a day on her own. Now she need feeding and rocking and patting and even after all that she wakes up after 15 minutes. On top of that she wants me to hold her all the time. All

Night time is the worst. After giving me those wonderful sleeps she started waking up every other hour . And now she doesn’t want to go back in her cot after feed. Yes. We are breastfeeding but we are not Co sleeping.

Other mums at baby group was having discussion about baby routines.  When I told them about my girl they were just amazed of how I done it. I became so confident. But now I am thinking what I’m doing wrong. Where I went wrong. Am I being overconfident.

My health visitor explained about growth spurt. What to look for? What to do? What are her needs right now? How to cope when baby is having a growth spurt.

Signs that your baby going through growth spurt

1. Feeding or eating more than usual

2. Sleeping regression  or hibernation.

3. When their clothes go smaller.

4. When they are fussier and need more comfort and cuddles.

5. There will be sudden increase in their weight and height.

Do’s and don’t

1. Do feed your baby whenever she wants. But don’t overfeed them when they start leaving or pushing out then stop.

2. Don’t link everything to growth spurt. It doesn’t accompany fever or rashes or any other illness. Always consult your pediatrician when you observe anything of concern.

3. Babies don’t understand their emotions and body changes and they get fussier. Feed them change them and check if their tummies are ok. Give them lots of cuddles and make them feel secure.

4. Do not wake your child up to feed. Unless your breasts are full and you have no option. Let them sleep. The more they sleep they grow.

5. Be there for your baby. Housework can be done once they are sleeping.

6. If they don’t let you sleep at night and keep waking up for feed, just feed them and keep patience. These days will pass soon.

Finally, I want to give support to all of you and tell you this is just a phase. I know it feels rrally frustrating sometimes and feels like you are stuck in this endless cycle but trust me when you look at your baby growing, you will forget about everything. One more thing that I was doing wrong.  I got too stuck up on making routine and staying on it. It’s not bad to follow your routine but if baby slips off then just allow it and stop blaming yourself.  Enjoy every stage.

Have a nice growth spurt.

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Breastfeeding to sleep and soothe baby

Screenshot_2016-03-17-12-44-23-1Babies are born with the instinct of sucking the breast . After birth the minute you put baby skin to skin, she starts feeding. It’s normal and it’s natural. If comfort nursing works for you and your family than nothing else matters at all.  When your baby grows few months older, people will start telling you to stop using feed as an association to sleep. Your kid needs to learn how to put himself to sleep on his own.

According to a research, sucking on breast releases a hormone called cholecystokinin (CCK) which makes both baby and mummy feeling relaxed and brings baby in sleep mode (Uvnas-Muberg et. Al 1993).

It’s important to teach your children good habits but it’s perfectly normal and healthy if your baby drift off on breast. It’s one of the developmental stage.

Babies usually wake up 2 to 3 times at night during their first year.  Some babies are just different they sleep through the night. There are no right or wrong rules or any successful methods.  Few things works for few babies and those same things won’t work on other babies. As time passes you will learn yourself what is more comforting for your baby.

My baby girl is about 6 months now and I trained her for sleeping as well. But she still drops off to sleep while feeding. I will write a post about how I trained her to sleep on her own. But for now I just want all the mothers to know to give your baby comfort. They feel close to you and they relax . Just think about it this way. Time flies when you have a baby and they wont be able to get the comfort and nourishment through breastfeed in their later life. So make the most of it and dont feel guilty . Even we as adults have associations to sleep like watching TV, reading book , scrolling through our smartphones and tablets.

Trust your baby and yourself.  There will be a time when your baby will go to sleep on his own. And then you will miss the closeness you had before. Just make the most of it.

I used to google a lot and i read a lot of articles about how to put baby to sleep , how to get them sleep through night, is comfort nursing good or bad. And all the mothers have these concerns. I can truly relate with that. But I learnt if that time someone came to me and reassure that this time is very little. My baby sleep through by God’s blessing .  She still wakes up once at night. But after a feed she goes back to sleep. It’s a natural developmental progression that she learnt when she was ready. And your baby will learn it too. Do not get frustrated and trust yor instinct. You are the mother and you are the whole world for your baby right now.  So be there for her .